Replacing deep fear with passionate desire

Posted by on Sep 13, 2013 | 0 comments

Fear is a powerful motivator. But what if we replaced it with our greatest desire?

A magic trick? Perhaps it is. So let’s do some magic…

Consciously we know when we’re afraid. Our hearts race. Our minds lock on a target. We see the “thing” that lives at the end of a dark hallway. The troll that claws at the metal under our bed. A person sneaks up behind us and “wham!”. Fists clench. Breath shortens. Eyes bug-out and widen. And we know we’re scared.

But fear also lives within us… behind the scenes. In this form it is not that we are afraid of something consciously, such as getting burnt by a hot stove, but instead we just find we don’t go near stoves again. Its unconscious. It drives us away from things that may have harmed us at one point, have some chance of generally being harmful…. but in actuality may never be. It is our own inner magic trick. “I swear I want to get into a new relationship. Huh….. I just guess its everyone else that’s crazy.”

This is of course what stops forward progression. Its debilitating. Its like the wizard in Oz, behind the curtain, pulling strings and pressing buttons and pushing levers. He’s very real, but it all seems like magic.

Every fear has some kernel of “good” for us. Something that would help us move forward. We may have a fear of heights, or of audiences, or of winged monkeys…..but they all have something to teach us.

When you are not afraid, not in a situation that is freaky, imagine the freaky situation and ask yourself. Simply sit down and begin to inquire..  “so…in the situation where I am normally stuck…. what am I afraid of happening?”. And you will have your first level answer. Follow it. “So if that happens… what am I afraid of happening?” And another answer. And then again….. “So, if that happens….”… and more and more. Following this sequence to the end. Till there are no more answers.

Funny though… when you reach the end you won’t find a fear lurking there…. but a desire. Something that you cherish. One (common) conclusion is simply your life. You reach the end and find that you cherish your life. So that is the place to now start.

Instead of a fear of something…. it is actually a caring for something. The difference in those words is the trick. If you care for something you treat it with regard, with respect, with desire for whatever it needs in the world to be its best. As you bring your creative mind to this thing you’ll find that you have no time for fear, but instead open up the possibility for what could be. Since you are starting from the simplest place possible, your cherishing of your life, there is nothing but more and more to come up with. Fear points us to what we care about. And lets just leave it at that. Once we know what it is that we care about we can make plans from that place and project those plans outward. You could take a child and lock it in its room for a lifetime…. out of fear. Or you can desire for it, and open it up to its own desires…. and teach it to go get them in a healthy and strong way. Whatever was “dangerous” before will practically go away, because… there isn’t time for it. It has been replaced by passion and fruition.

Go get it!

Join me for a deeper discussion on this topic on September 17th at 7Pm pacific time.

This is our first topic…. of so many to come. We’re going to have a good time.

So sign in, sign on, and learn more about your own evolution. Conscious Jam Radio.


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Posted by on Sep 4, 2013 | 0 comments

I just had to repost my post from facebook.

This is such a clear part of the work we do at SpiralKinetics. This is one of the reasons I created Spiral Kinetics:

Watch    :


So that, whether you are a Man or a Woman… at age 80, 90, and more …you can continue to do all the things you enjoy.

Like this.


Wouldn’t that be great for us all?



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This is SpiralKinetics – Your very own Primer

Posted by on Aug 23, 2013 | 0 comments

Hi. You know me. I’m the guy who keeps talking about “Spiral Kinetics” online. An advanced exercise system. Kinda sweet name. But does it mean anything?

Maybe. Let’s explore it from its tiny, little, inception.

If you’re concerned with your fitness you are like me. You care about how you LOOK in your body, how you deeply FEEL in your body, and how you PERFORM in your body. They are ALL important. And they are all meaningful to our lives. When I worked as a trainer I watched the all the different types of techniques there were for health and fitness. They were all good…. but really one dimensional. Very linear. Very booooooring. I was personally so bored that I stopped working out completely for years so I could step back and just take a look at what was out there. None of it addressed the three things that I described above. Not directly anyway (sometimes it just happened through sheer luck). So I studied the problem. It just didn’t make sense to workout hard in one fashion…. and then use the body during the day in another. This seemed to be the reason so many people got injured. This was the discrepancy.

Then “functional” movement came along. This was BETTER! Alright…. everyone’s doing yoga and functional movement. Now I can….. Nope. This was still not right. We have a number of two dimensional movement systems now (some of them very old)….. but that cannot be the whole story. So I sat back again and waited (You’re getting of tired waiting with me….yeah? That’s how I was too).

Then I took a flight out to Saint Croix. One of those Virgin islands in the caribbean that you never want to return from. Here’s my advice…. do NOT fly standby. The ticket isn’t much cheaper and it can be a teriffic mistake. They can bump you for anything….. including looking like a Dodger fan. I did. So they bumped me for three days. It was actually spring break and my layover was in Puerto Rico. There was no way to get a flight back to the U.S.A…. so, being stuck with nothing to do…. in Puerto Rico (I know, you’ve not an iota of sympathy for me here) I began to experiment. I dove deep into our anatomy. How does a joint move? What are its possibilities…..? Not just what have I been told. And if I…. Ah ha! that was it. Suddenly there was a lot of writing and note taking. Most of the muscles in the body are built on diagonals. Not straight lines. So a three dimensional movement system began to crawl out from the womb (with a great tan).

When we move… We do not move in a liner fashion. The connections of the muscles are not central…. but medial or lateral in most cases. This means that the lines of pull are not central as well. Well now, how can we train this way?

This is the beginning of understanding Spiral Kinetics™. Our bodies want a full range of ability. The joints want three dimensional motion. Incredible physical therapists knew this and began teaching it. But… it had to come out of the closet, leave the clinicians office and become accessible to the mainstream. It needs to be an easy system that anyone can use to HONE their complete body and teach their muscles to move full and fluidly…. so they can feel complete.

This is one of the keys to this comprehensive movement system/Spiral Kinetics™. This complete use of the muscle in multiple dimensions. We teach you to use and exhaust the possibilities of each joint and then…. your body is simply ready for anything. And it looks it! I’ve designed it so it literally addresses the tips of your toes all the way to the top of your head.

So what does this all actually give you? Well….. the muscles pull the bones into alignment (or out of alignment if they are not properly programmed). So your entire body becomes more aligned. Your posture rights itself…. providing a stronger foundation for the muscles to ride on. This gives you greater strength and ability. When the bones are correctly aligned secondary muscles can relax. Oh yes…..Ahhhh…… getting rid of that tightness. Especially in your traps (shoulders). Frozen joints, muscle imbalances, movement with greater ease and efficiency, longevity, power… from nothing to intensity, and so much more. Because I didn’t stop there. There are many healing techniques in this system, and coaching methods to get you aligned with you, in a deeper way… including very specific techniques that “clean” your neurological system for greater ease, high focus and ability.

Why all this depth? Because I finally wanted one system that did it all. One that could be used in the real world and prove itself to help others. I call it the Future of Fitness.

Spiral…. Kinetics.

Any questions? 🙂 Email me … let’s begin the conversation.

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Letting men down easy (for men and women)

Posted by on Aug 10, 2013 | 0 comments

Stalkers. They’re everywhere. After listening to so many women tell me that some guy they know won’t leave them alone I get that there’s a problem. My only question is… “Why do they keep coming to me?!!”

I’ve worked in and run men’s and women’s groups… so yeah, I may have some thoughts. But, so… I know about this?  Really?

If I help out the women now…. isn’t that like batting for the other team?

But the more I thought about this the more I considered it. In this situation we think its the women that are in trouble and the men are being aggressive and in control, and so only one party is getting hurt. But what is really going on? And who is winning?

She’s not winning. She doesn’t want anything to do with this relationship…. (anymore at least…. especially if she had been seeing him at some point). And he’s definitely not winning. She’s getting more and more turned off. So this is just not working for anybody.

There should be a way to get everyone thinking clearly here and get on the same page. She wants distance and …well… peace. He wants….. her of course. But even more important, he doesn’t want to look like a fool. So yes! I can help both teams here.

If you want to learn how to play this game go here:

…and sign in for the talk. Its starts on Tuesday August 27th 2013 at 7pm. All free. All me (with a little help from a friend).

But here’s a piece of it:

If you are a woman… get very clear on what you want. Before it all went “awry” what type of relationship… in detail… did you or do you want with this person. So many women I have dealt with just have a slight feeling around the relationship (or One-Big-Angry feeling)…. but have not put down – in detail – the type of relationship they want/had wanted with this person. Without definition there is wiggle room in many areas. Wiggle room that the guy can feel and is actually helping to draw him in closer that she would like.

Be very exact with your definition of the relationship, especially if it is getting “strange.” He will begin to feel your exactness and it will help provide direction. The more detailed the better. 

Come to the talk! There’s more. It’ll be fun and enlightening.


UPDATE: The talk was a success. Great questions and Austin Pick…. my interviewer was a delight and right on point.

The 4 stages of Letting a Man down easy were discussed and now the women on the call are ready to handle the situations so that everyone wins. Remember …. when you objectify him (“he’s an ass or idiot”) he objectifies you. And then everyone is playing the game. Don’t fall into this trap.

(Since this talk has already happened….  email me now if you want a gift copy of the recorded audio)

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